My family reunion vacation & More

Let me start by saying, I am by no means an environmentalist. I drive a luxury automobile that takes high octane gas; I like to go to destinations where there are modern luxuries and built up towns. I typically book suites on cruise ships that take up way more space then I and my family really need. In addition to that.  When you and your family travel on a cruise vacation is there anything more annoying then other passengers who hog the various community property, such as lounge chairs or tables at the buffet?  Ah, not so fast grasshopper, maybe it is a blessing in disguise. Plus my crazy family is stuffing food away like it's a shortage on the ship.

I agree that it can sometimes be disheartening to finally get your food after a 30 or 40 minute wait in line to only find out that there is no where to be seated.  I must say that for the most part, after I load up my tray with all the tasty treats that have come steaming out of the kitchen, I really do not want to sit in a crowded restaurant, and have all of those Johnny come too late, dinners staring at me, or worse yet hovering over me at my table, while they try ever so hard to not seem like the obvious table vultures that they are, just waiting for me and my family to get up, where they can swoop down and claim the table for themselves.  

I still had to keep my cool because this was a family reunion cruise and I didn't want to show out in front of my nana.  Even though she was on the pool deck doing her version of the dougie with some guy who was not my grandfather.  Geesh!!!   This was the first cruise that I had ever been on where there was not one hot chick.  Maybe because it was the holiday...who knows.  When we docked in the Bahamas it was a culture shock for me.  I wanted to see the real island..not just the tourist section.

Beside everyone smoking weed and drinking.  It was sad to see kids pumping water out the ground to drink.  I gave a kid $5 and he gave me the biggest hug and pretty much followed me for the next 15 minutes.  I think the little dude copped a feel too.

I did something that my brother though was crazy.  I bought a house in the Bahamas.  Nothing big but I caled the number outside the house just to see it. The man that owned it lived five houses down and pretty much ran down to meet me.  I had a hard time understand what the heck he was showing me, but I did understand $10k asking price.  Like really?? Three bedrooms two baths and a large yard.  Lets get the deal done.  lol  I did get help from this fine young man from the U.S Embassy to make sure I was not getting ripped off and after a couple of hours.  The deal was done.

Every cruise has a bad side.  My brother ex girlfriend who is one of my best friends went with us on the cruise.  She is pretty much family in my book.  She has been that quiet girl from next door for many years.  Well on the cruise that all changed.  I found her in the hall way kissing my cousin and he pretty much had a firm grip on my ass in the process.  I was cool with it but my brother just so happen to be coming down the hall too.  Of course he got pissed but its crazy because they broke up like 10 years ago.  Get over it dude!  Plus he was hanging out with a chick who was a bachelorette and was getting married in a few days.  Between the lap dances she was giving him and taking shot off his nips.   I'm sure her husband to be got a winner.

I did take some time to sit back and look at myself.  I pretty much gave up on dating because it was becoming too much of a hassle.  It seem like today guys want to be too much like rappers and not fathers or businessmen.  I met this guy on the cruise that live down in Miami.  He wasnt the best looking guy, but he treated like a lady.  He just wanted to hang out and have fun.  That is when i realized what im missing in life.  A real man!  Not some guy i can fix up or some guy that only want sex.  trust me I have been around the block.  Guy aint showing me nothing new that I have not already seen.  That what makes me so hard to approach.  Just last night i was out food shopping.  i was approached by this man and his line was :  Excuse me do you know where the sugar is?  So i cut him off because he could finish that lame ass line.  I get emails from my other family (THC) members that are way out there.  I would never call them out but some of them I can tell why they are in the group.  With convos like your trying to have with me.  I understand why your single. That the type of crap that I have deal with.  But I know one day Mr. Right will come sweep me off my feet.  At this point I will continue to weed thru the BS.  

Why Women Cheat?

I had a friend of mine ask me last night why do women cheat.  His caught his girl with another guy about a week ago and was struggling with the fact she had to find what she was missing somewhere else.  I decided to share the information with everyone that I gave him.  Hopefully if your neglecting your women you can correct the issue before she cheat.  So my reasons are as follow:


Reason #1: There's no passion


Women love passion and most guys just want to jump into sex and fucking.  Some guys don't know where to began when it comes to passion. 


Reason #2: To delay a breakup


Sometime women are ready to pack our bags and go, but things happen.  It could be a family member is ill and a break up would be too hard on the guy. Cheating would be too, but you first must get caught.

Reason #3: We deserves better

We spend most of our free time taking care of you and making sure your happy.  In return we get nothing but some half ass credit for being your girl.  We as women deserve to be equal in the relationship and not treated as your child.

Reason #4: We looking for a missing piece

There will be time where we have to tell you over and over again that we are missing something.  Weather its a tell me you love me everyday or just give me a simple compliment.  If we have to keep telling you and Joe Blow comes into the picture and fills the void your making.  Then the math is quite simple.

Reason #5: To give him a taste of his own medicine

We know when your cheating or have cheated.  Some women just take it and keep it moving.  Then some women will say they forgive you and strike back when you least expected.  I know of a couple that when the boyfriend came home he found his girl that he was going to propose to.  In his bed riding another dude and when she got caught she didnt stop.  

Reason #6: There's something lacking in the physical department

Some women say they need a big dick, but the real women like me will take what you got to offer.  Lacking in the physical department is one reason women cheat and if your lacking....You better be one hell of a pussy & asshole eater.  That will void out reason number 6 anytime.

Reason #7: The Hitachi Magic Wand

I know ...I know...How can a sex toy make you cheat?  This toy is serious and if your sex or passion is not up to par.  This toy will have us looking for another guy or women that can give us the pleasure that this toy can give us.  (Side Note)  If your open to having toys in your relationship this gets 5 stars.  using this the right way with your girl..will make her love you long time...lmao

                                                                              

                                                       RookieLove

Dating Rookie Love

Ok first off let me begain by blaming Flying High for this horriable date I went on this past weekend.  She has been telling me for months that I need to open my eyes and see the true meaning of dating.  She also said to stop judging people by the book and give the common guy a chance.  So i took her advice because most of the time she give great advice, but this time was an epic fail.  Lower your standards she says....Crack the door for mr right she says.  FH this is what happen when I lowered my standerds.  Friday I went to the dentist to have my routine check up and cleaning.  As I''m sitting in the lobby this guy keeps moving around trying to get close to me everytime someone gets called to the back.  I see him the entire time look all goofy and stupid.  At this point I can tell he about 35 with a bunch of kids and divorced because he cheated on his ex wife with his ex girlfriend from high school.  Just guessing.  So we begain to talk and right away i want to punch this guy in the face and stomp on his chest with my boots on.  He was working ever bad line you could possiable think of, but after a while it was so bad that it became funny.  He asked me out to dinner Friday night.  Which I quickly said NO!  I mean before he could finish asking me out I said no.  But for 5 seconds I could hear the mini Flying High on my should dressed in all white saying Tiamia....give the man a date.  So I listend and told Keith ( Thats his name)  That I'm free for brunch of Saturday.  He said great because I'm free around 4pm also.  Fuck me but that Mini FH said Tiamia be nice and I told him how about 11am.  


So he gave me his info and asked for mine, but never got it. So brunch was here and we had a lot in common and  i was really enjoyed myself.  I'm think FH was right on the money.  First date out the gate and this guy is very nice, BUT then halfway through he tells me that he felt that he had been done a huge disservice by having been circumcised.  Like WTF?  Out the blue he equated it to a woman having a breast removed!! I told him that it was not the same, because how could he miss something that he couldn't remember having? So he then tells me that he had done research on the internet of all places and had fashioned a contraption out of surgical tape & string that he secured to the skin of his ahem, member and taped the string to his leg. It kept continuous tension on the skin stretching it. He had created his own faux foreskin!!!!!!!! AND NO I DID NOT SEE IT!  he was dead serious about this and was talking loud.  I just got up and left and never looked back his way.  All i could hear him saying was wait...wait.  Thank you for that complete waste of time Flying High.  This time your advice was fucked.  

                                                        RookieLove

Rookie's Thoughts: Rookie & Tiamia

Rookie's Thoughts: Rookie & Tiamia: Twenty-nine years ago my parents had to have another child because my brother Donald aka Microwave P was driving them nuts. So after some c...

Rookie & Tiamia

Twenty-nine years ago my parents had to have another child because my brother Donald aka Microwave P was driving them nuts.  So after some colt 45 and Spanish fly my dad gave my mother the night of her life.  the world was introduced to me Tiamia ( Rookie) Owens.  Yes today is my birthday and for what ever reason I'm happy.  I have not been happy over my birthday for the past two years.  For all that are close to me know that both my parents died right after my birthday.  They died a little over a month apart so celebrating my birthday has always been hard.  FlyingHigh is one of my closes friends on the planet.  Last week she gave me some great advice about being myself and not being afraid to let my hair down.  She was right.  I hate when she is right.  I remember a point in my life where I was the biggest bitch around.  No I'm not talking about size, but my attitude.  I'm a 29 year old Jr. Vp of marketing and about 3 years ago I had to fire a manager.  Boy did he rip my ass on his way out the door.  No one has ever talked to me like that before, but the crazy part....he was right.  I canceled one of the employees 50th birthday party at work just because I was not invited.  Now i think back..how fucked up a decision was that? I really did some cold shit to people.  It took that one manager I fired to hand me my ass for me to see how evil I was.

From that point on I have been doing my best to be nice to people.  Flyinghigh can cosign that for me.  So now my work attitude was moving in the right path but my personal life was a hot mess.  My family is divided and there is no hiding that.  Mircowave P aka Donald, Myself and my little sister Dana are the only children my parents had...that we knew of.  After my dad died we found out he has another son that is older than me.  We met him and he seems cool enough but my brother was not having that.  For the past 10 years I have always been the one trying to keep both side of my family together.  All this time I was worrying about my family...it was killing my personal life.  I use to date or try to date.  My dad was one of them fathers that didn't want his girls to depend on any man in life.  So as a little girl I helped change a car tire, go to junk yards, and clean up snow.  Just to name a few things.  As an adult this has carried over and was causing major problems.  After I got out of college my first job was with a small marketing company.  they offered me $85k right out of school.  this also didn't help my personal life because I felt as if I didn't need anyone for anything.  Every time I dated a guy he would never make the cut for a second date.  Me being the shallow person I USE to be.  I started dating guys that I can fix up.  like a project that would keep me busy and sexual happy.  to be honest that worked for over 8 years.

In the long run I got my heart broken and I'm still single with my twins.  I don't know how my dad would take it if he was still alive on how his grand-daughters came to life.  I think about that a lot.  i know he would be happy they here but would he approve of the method.  Another thing I did was have two twin girls with out a man.  Well sort of, but you know Alicia & Ava story.  I let flyinghigh name Ava and thats why she the bad one of the two...lol

Sorry I was getting off track.  So today is my birthday and I just came back to work from being suspended.  My first run-in with Corporate America aka the white man.  Here is the quick version of the story.  Like I said im a Jr Vp of Marketing for an Airline company.  I was offered a promotion that would have doubled my salary, but would require me to move to NYC.  This job would have also moved me to a full VP.  Everything sounded good but it would require too much time away from my kids and being a new mother I not ready for that yet.  Plus i'm happy with what I make and what I do.  Well the company just knew I was going to take the promotion and hired another Jr Vp of Marketing.  Now that I turned it down here they are with two Jr Vp's for one department.  So they came back to me and offered another $30k to take the job.  Again I turned it down.  Well somebody higher than me got pissed and made the new Jr Vp a Senior Jr Vp of Marketing...aka my new boss.  Yes he has been making my job a living hell.

he is a white male in his early 50's and here I am this sexy booty out to here 29yr old black female and we have been hitting head everyday.  last friday the old tiamia came out and I let his ass have it.  We were both suspended until today.  I had my welcome back to work meeting and was told I'm a great asset to the company ect ect ect

I said enough but i can say more.  I'm a talker but my employees are having a birthday breakfast for me So I must run.  thank you for reading and letting me express myself on my special day.  catch you in the group, facebook and twitter today.  It my birthday

Tiamia Rookie Owens

What is Love?

According to Webster dictionary Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. Generally when a person falls in love they have heightened romantic interest in someone else and this doesn’t necessarily have to occur at first sight. Many people are friends first and find over time their feelings change to those more romantic in nature. They might want more from a relationship than just friendship and they may cherish more than friendly feelings for the person with whom they've fallen in love. Most times they agree that being just friends is best for both parties. When deep down the love is burning a hole in their soul.




The emotions which we experience when we are falling in love are almost enough to set off fireworks. Love is a powerful emotion and one which most of us will luckily have the pleasure to experience at some point in our lives. Love knows no boundaries and it will infect anyone irregardless of one's race, stature, age or intelligence. People thing they can be in love with more than one person at a time. That is false. When your in love with someone you are giving that person your full emotions. Just saying I love you don't cut it. Love is a action work that most people take for granted. You have to show real love and when you do...its a beautiful thing. I have two friends that are in love with each other but due to certain things in the universe they are not in a relationship. The love that my male friend has for this female is like no other that I have ever seen. He is her knight in shining armor and once they both realize that. It will be a love explosion for the ages. That is the love that I wish to give a man sometime here in the future.




My love life has taken so many twist and turns here in the past couple of years.  I have tried to date the fixer up guy, the common guy, the young guy, and the older guy.  None of them was working for me.  I stop dating one guy due to the way he chew his steak. My dad raised me to never depend on a man for nothing and I have to admit that I took that and ran with it. I wanted kids..no need to find the right guy and get married. I took care of that myself. Repairs around the house ( that my brother fuck up trying to fix) I read up on it and fix it myself. The one thing my dad forgot to tell me that I would need a man for........was LOVE.

Tiamia "Rookie Love" Owens

Falling Friends

Falling Friends

This is a special blog that is close to my heart about one of my friends.  This is also a lesson to all who wake up one day and think their shit don't stink.


A good close friend of mine is in a relationship with a good dude.  To define how good he is would take up too much of my blog space and I don't have the time to list it all.  When they met she was in street hustle mode living in the projects and not doing too much for herself.  Fast forward they start dating and she lose what little job she had.  As a good man should do he helped her get an apt and let her use his 2009 Yukon until she gets back on her feet.  Fast forward again she falls short on money for school and start stripping to makes ends meet behind her boyfriends back.  He finds out a couple of weeks later and tells her he will support her until she gets back in school and working if she quite stripping.  She does and everything seems to be working out.


Last fast forward.  She is in school full-time and got a nice paying job with great benefits.  All seems to be going great but being a full-time student and working full-time has put a strain on the relationship.  Tuesday thru Saturday she is in school or working from 8am to 9pm.


Now the problem...She tells her man that she too tired to hang out, but choose to hit up a club with some male and female co workers.  One of the male coworkers buys her lunch everyday and she gave him a lap-dance in the club.  he Kissed her on the cheek and the neck but she blamed it on the alcohol.  She tells her man two days later but left out the kissing part.  He was upset but after a day he forgave her and was ready to make the relationship work.  Now she is on her B.S and told him that because he went out and didn't come home she need to think about this relationship.  Told him that if he want her...he knows where to find him.  She said her problem with her boyfriend is that he is too needy and his sex is too long.  She want a 5 minute guy not a hour + guy.


Tell me what you think?  My friend crazy or is her boyfriend giver her too much rope?

Tiamia "Rookie Love" Owens

Rookie Love's interview with Tiamia Owens

Recently someone told me I should just live and be free.  Didn't know I wasn't free but i understand what she was getting at.  I'm always trying to tell her what she should do in life but never took the time to take her advice about my life.  So here is my interview with my inner self and I hope you get to learn something new about me.

Rookie: What was your favorite food when you were a child?

Tiamia: When I was a kid my favorite thing to eat was bannans, peanutbutter, and bacon sandwich.

Rookie:  What’s the #1 most played song on your iPod?

Tiamia:  Right now it's DMX the rain.  for what ever reason it reminds me of my mother's advice

Rookie:  What is one of your favorite quotes?

Tiamia:  ummmm stop playing bitch

Rookie:  What’s your favorite indoor/outdoor activity?

Tiamia:  Right now indoor has to be dogeball.  I'm loving it and outdoor its people watching

Rookie:  What chore do you absolutely hate doing?

Tiamia:  Any that the housekeeper don't do..lol

Rookie:  What is your favorite form of exercise?

Tiamia:  umm duh Sex

Rookie:  What is your favorite body part?

Tiamia:  I would have to say my boobs but before kids I had killer thighs

Rookie:  If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?

Tiamia: After investing and putting a lot aside for a raining day.  I would open a women shelter   

Rookie:  When you have 30 minutes of free-time, how do you pass the time?

Tiamia:       Use my hitachi back messager.....on my back (lol)

Rookie:  If you could know the answer to any question, besides “What is the meaning of life?”, what would it be?

Tiamia:   I would want to know why do we have demecrats and how do we get rid  of them.

If you have any question you want me to answer then today is your day.  Leave them in the comments or email me rookielove30@gmail.com

I'm a Role Model

This week I will be mentoring two at risk teen girls everyday here at work.  I think this is a perfect chance to show these young girls that staying in the books and giving up a part or two is the way to go if they want to make it in life.  I know i'm a role model, because when you have a vision of something greater for your life and work towards that vision you will become a positive role model for others whether you want to or not. When you value, believe in and respect yourself, people will notice that there's something different about you. And chances are you will not fit in with everyone else. That's a good thing, because it means that you are unique and you were given the special task of being a beacon of light for others.  Being a role model isn't always easy. There will be times when you will find yourself at odds with your friends. You'll even worry about fitting in. But don't worry. You're not supposed to fit in, because being a role model means that you stand out for others to see.

There is something special about knowing that you are trying to set a good example and that you care enough to be the very best. Whether or not you are popular has nothing to do with being a role model. A role model is someone who chooses to put forth their best effort everyday and when they make a mistake they pick themselves up and try again. If this sounds like you, then I say that you are a positive role model. Keep up the good work.  If this does now sound like you then read this over and use today to make a change.  Remember your son will grow up to be just like you.

Tiamia " Rookie Love" Owens

Ran into the Ex

After 1 month of having no contact with my ex and I was finally getting over him, I run into him at the movie last night with his new-ex girlfriend. It was weird, it's like as soon as I saw him, it seemed the pain came all over again & the memories came back to me, the good and the bad.He was looking great and for that simple moment, I wanted to go back in time to when we were together. I tried to avoid him but he seemed to catch me as soon as I tried to turn around. We ended on bad terms and I broke his arm which was kind of enjoyable.  He pushed me and I grab my Louisville and swung for the fence.   Better I break his arm than my brother break his face, but thats all water under the bridge. He seemed to have gotten over it since he actually called out my name at the movie. He was happy to see me and he told me that I looked great, which I already knew. What also hurted was to see that he moved back with his ex girldfriend who I have some history with. She had the nerve to stand next to him like I was really going to show some emotion.  She look like she could be a model for the local Mexican restaurant or my next house keeper! They seem to like each other alot, they were all hugged up on each other & they seem very happy. He was talking about how good his life is now & that he's happier than he's ever been. He basically told me that it was good seeing me again & for me to take care of myself.  This dumb ass was trying to put all this he living good energy out into the world when he really not.  Sleeping on his brother couch and had to let his oldest daughter go back to live with her drug rehab mother.  He never addressed the issue of our ex relationship, probably for the better anyway.  Because all them bad feeling would have came back and I would have broken the other arm.

Right now im not looking for love or a relationship.  I told my bestfriend\little sister that im going to grow old and get a bunch of cats.   No love life (unless its my Hitachi), no male excitement in my life.. just nothing but my Alicia & Ava. 


But I did get the number of a fine ass white guy that was taking his daughter to the movies.  Maybe white is my answer to happiness...Shut up RZ..lmao


Tiamia " Rookie Love" Owens

What makes a person a Whore?

"Hoe" is a slang variant of the word "whore"; a prostitute.
A hoe is a person who offers herself sexually to gain the approval of others, or other benefits. This may not mean she actually has sex with anyone, a person who flirts too much may be designated a "hoe" as well.



Me and one of my employees had the age old conversation of what makes a women a whore.  She thinks if u sleep with more than ONE man in her book ur considered a hoe... And let's be real ladies... This day and age, who's only been with 1 man? When she said that I was thinking so, u think im a hoe cuz I been with about lets say ummmmm 10 guys since I was 16.T  hen I thought for u to be a grown woman calling another woman a hoe is childesh, I thought it was so high school... I feel like if ur grown u can sleep with who u want when u want and how many u want.  I think maturity level and self respect would play a part but if it was over years I dont see the problem. When it comes down to it all that matters is what u think of yourself.  If you can look in the mirror and smile because you feel good about yourself and how your living your life.  Then ok great for you.  My aunt id from the old school and I asked her the same question.  Her responds was In my book hoe is short for hooker, hooker is slang for prostitute, and a prostitute is someone who has sex for money. A slut is a scandalous heffa who will sleep with anyone or anything out of a lack of self respect and disregard of others.  I kinda of see her point too.  there are women out there that will on purpose sleep with another women man.  Now don't get me wrong.  I have done my dirt in the past and have friends that have also.  There is a flip side to this.  My brother was in an open relationship with two women.  Does that make him a man whore?  Both women knew each other and knew the deal.  Personally I though it was cool to have two future sister in laws ( if we lived in Utah)


I think it's disgusting that men can get away with all that they do, yet women do the exact same and get called derogatory names. I think if a man has sex with multiple partners and continiously boasts about it, he is obviously a slut. There are no two ways about it. Men can also be sluts, they can also be whores, there is nothing that distinguishs those terms to one particular sex. I find that most men are worse than any one woman can be when it comes to being a whore, because they find pleasure and joy out of it and put women down.


My final thought.....Men and women can be Whores, but in the eyes of the world today.  A women whore is much worst then a man whore.  If your going to be a whore do it with some class and always use protection FROM THE START..aka first insert.  Man whore or women  whore....STD's and HIV don't give a damn.


Tiamia "RookieLove" Owens